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Don’t Ask, Don’t KvellPosted on Aug 31, 2007By Marie Cocco WASHINGTON—I’d been enjoying a good chuckle at the YouTube video documenting Mitt Romney’s transformation from dedicated pro-choice advocate in Massachusetts to die-hard abortion foe on the Republican hustings when Larry Craig gave us that come-hither foot tap. The dog days of August haven’t been livelier since we spent the summer of 2003 talking about Rick “Man on Dog” Santorum. He was, followers of the Republican war on gays might recall, a conservative senator from Pennsylvania who enlightened us with his thinking about sodomy by opposing what even the conservative Supreme Court has legalized, as well as speaking out against the right of consenting adults to commit adultery. Santorum threw into his definition of marriage—the interview centered on gay marriage—what matrimony is not: “It’s not, you know, man on child, man on dog or whatever the case may be.” Santorum’s doggie discourse was but one of the lamentable stumbles on his way to defeat last November. Since then, Republican sex-capades have taken on more of a freak-show quality. Who could have predicted that after Rep. Mark Foley, R-Fla., got caught sending lewd instant messages to young male congressional aides, Sen. David Vitter, R-La., would have his name turn up on the rolls of the D.C. madam? And there was no way—none at all—to predict that there would be not one but two Republicans—besides the disgraced Craig, there’s a Florida state senator previously affiliated with John McCain’s presidential campaign—who would get caught compromised in a men’s room stall? As someone who does not believe gays are inherently immoral or deranged, and who finds Washington sex scandals enticing because they hold the potential for that bipartisan participation so elusive in the halls of Congress, I have but one wish: Don’t bring ‘em on. I do not like seeing people humiliated, especially when wives and children must endure the mortification alongside the misbehaving men in their lives. I don’t take any joy in pointing out, again and again, the hypocrisy of closeted gay Republican politicians targeting homosexuals as political wedge issues, whether the cause is keeping openly gay people out of the military or keeping them from civil unions. I am repulsed by politicians who promote abstinence before marriage and then fail to abstain from sex outside their marriage. Advertisement But really, this hypocrisy story is getting pretty stale. And so, with the knowledge that neither side in the great refighting of the sexual revolution is particularly happy with this solution, I offer this thought: Can we please stop talking about sex? Stop attacking gay people. Stop using birth control policy as a weapon that harms women’s health. Accept that abortion is legal, and needs to be in order to prevent the greater tragedy of thousands of women who would otherwise die or harm themselves through illegal abortions. Besides being spared a few tawdry headlines (OK, there will always be some) we’d be done with the double-speak now heard on the Republican presidential campaign trail, as Romney and others explain just why they were for legal abortion before they were against it. As far as I can tell, the only group of voters that wants to keep sexual voyeurism in our politics is the very group that indirectly leads so many Republican lawmakers down the well-trod path to the microphone to confess their sins and beg forgiveness: social conservatives. If they’re as grossed out as the rest of us by the mere thought of an aging senator playing footsie with the vice squad in a bathroom stall, then they’ve got the power to set us free. Not that politicians should be free to abuse (as Foley did) or violate the law (as Craig has admitted). But they should be free to be openly gay or to mess up their marriages, just like everybody else. So what if all politicians took a new pledge? Instead of promising to uphold “family values,” they could promise to value the right of Americans to live our personal lives with a measure of privacy, dignity and access to the healthcare needed to safeguard our well-being—and society’s. Marie Cocco’s e-mail address is mariecocco(at)washpost.com. © 2007, Washington Post Writers Group Elsewhere: . CommentsAre you a Truthdig member yet? Login now, or register with Truthdig. Add Your Comment
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By Mariam Russell, September 8, 2007 at 2:12 pm #
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I was reminded, when I opined that I was sick and disgusted with the constant window peeking in politics, that as long as the Repugs sell themselves as the “moral” and “family values” party, they are fair game for “outing” and the publishing of their antics when they are sure no one else is looking.
I cannot disagree. I realize that the pose of religiosity and great moral stances are to secure the votes of the really religious and gullible, but they need to pay heed to some of what is in the book they make such a big show of believing…....
You know, that one about Do unto others, and that other one, by their fruits ye shall know them.
Of course the really good one about glass houses did not come from that book…...but 2 out of 3 ain’t bad.
Report thisBy shz, September 7, 2007 at 4:20 pm #
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Don’t forget…...it was CRAIG who humiliated HIMSELF!
Yes, it’s sad…..pitiful, even….the thought of a grown man playing footsie with strangers in men’s rooms stalls. But that’s Craig’s problem.
Some have called the undercover police action “entrapment”. Well I say go for it! I’d like to think I could allow my youngsters to use a public bathroom unmolested!
Report thisBy Tristan, September 5, 2007 at 5:03 pm #
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Utopian politics? Good luck with that Maria. And if I may, I wish that frogs had wings. . . so’s that they wouldn’t bump their asses while hopping.
Sen. Craig got what he so richly deserved. The public’s response to that is ENTIRELY out of your control. What about the media, you say? Oh, I always find it quite dubious “the media commenting on the media”. It’s a lot like our brains. Think about it: the brain tells the self that it’s not good enough for itself? How can re-phrase that last snide remark? With another of course! Pot, meet kettle. Kettle-, pot.
Get over it Maria, this eskimo has ENOUGH SNOW already.
Report thisBy cognitorex, September 5, 2007 at 12:11 pm #
Rock, Paper, Toilets
Rocks breaks scissors, paper covers rock, scissors cut paper.
In recent national elections prior to Mark Foley, the religious right and the GOP operatives that manipulate the gay hating right have owned a significant edge in votes when the aura of gays, queers, marriage is invoked.
Thanks to the unveiling of Foley, Larry Craig, Ted Haggard and other lesser GOP, both public toilet and non GOP sexual oriented Lotharios the ‘gay, queer, marriage’ issue is lost as an advantage to the GOP.
This is positively awesome.
Senator Craig is now reconsidering his resignation. Please take Senator Specter’s advice Mr. Craig and stay in the Senate while you battle out in public your relative criminality and your relative gayness.
That would be most appreciated. (My heart felt thanks thanks to Senator Specter, by the way!!)
The GOP’s gifting of the voting edge on the ‘values’ issue is also positively awesome. Thanks guys.
Report this—cognitorex blogspot—
By john polifronio, September 5, 2007 at 10:05 am #
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It saddens me, that so many “liberals,” are coming to the defense of their conservative friends, when it’s found that they’ve engaged not simply in gay sex, but in extra-marital, and worse, extra-heterosexual-marital, gay sex! Why didn’t we hear any of this commotion when Clinton was under the attack of a bunch of republican ghouls and hypocrites, for his perfectly innocent and infrequent indulgences with Monica?
Report thisBy coolrebel, September 4, 2007 at 12:05 am #
yes, hyprocrisy is a stale story, but just wishing that we stop talking about politicans and sex will not make it so. That will only happen when the level of political discourse in this country improves substantially. and as it’s likely to get more fatuous rather than less, the fear must be that the sex lives of politicans will become more of an issue rather than receding in importance.
Report thisBy Chris, September 3, 2007 at 8:19 pm #
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But Maria, if the media and politicians and pundits and bloggers don’t talk about sex, what would keep the average, under-educated, uninterested, doltish American paying any attention to politicians at all? We live in a time where EVERYTHING is dumbed down; sex and food are about the lowest common denominators for reaching the widest possible audience now. Hell, even animals with prehensile tales understand sex.
Report thisBy socdolager, September 3, 2007 at 3:25 pm #
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I have no problems with gay people; they should be allowed to serve openly in the military, and be able to marry. But politicians who espouse “family values” and anti-gay agendas, and who are actually living a secret double life, deserve to be exposed and even driven from office. Larry Craig denies he is gay, but of course he has homosexual urgings that he can’t seem to keep down. This leads to severe psychological problems such as self-hatred, and of course the constant worry of being exposed. Fear of exposure could lead to blackmail. We just don’t need someone like this in our nation’s leadership.
Report thisAnd also, Bill Clinton did not lie aabout Monica Lewinsky in that famous finger-pointing incident. He said he did not have “sexual relations” with her, not one time. Look up that phrase in any dictionary and you will see it means sexual intercourse or congress, meaning the insertion of the penis into the vagina. It does not include other types of sex, such as oral sex. You can say Clinton was precise in his use of words, or you can say he was being intentionally misleading, your choice, but his statement was not a lie.
By G.Anderson, September 2, 2007 at 9:00 pm #
Never for one second ever believe that Mr. Craig has any connection to the real world.
That he was crazy enough to go on national T.V., and try to lie his way out of things, that he believed he could convince the American people he was innoscent, displays an arrogance and an unparelled narcisism.
Undoubtedly, this secret life he’s been living has been going on for a long time. If you want to compare him to someone, compare him instead to an obessive animal control officer somewhere out in the heartland…
Is it funny, that people seem unable to pick out the sociopaths from the crowd?
He wears a tie, and a nice suit, he smiles and says just the right things, but sociopaths can’t risk being anything but normal.
What is it about people, about our country, that we seem unable, to spot the warped mentality when their trying to get elected, but only after some smart cop, whose just doing his job, pulls his covers…?
Report thisBy Howard Mandel, September 2, 2007 at 11:16 am #
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Every time a “family values” hypocrite is exposed the political value of legislating morality is diminished.
Someday soon “moral” Americans will realize that their values are there own business. If you don’t like the way someone leads their life or raises their children, then don’t associate with them… or vote for them. Government does not have the power to tell us how to live. It’s their job to provide for our common welfare. That means to serve the interests we have in common, not those that divide us.
Report thisBy Paracelsus, September 1, 2007 at 9:45 pm #
Of Secret Lives and Questionable Moral Fiber
I am happy to see Craig go not because he is a hypocritical and loathsome creature. We have many of those from Ted Stevens to Hillary Clinton. No, I am glad to see him go because I do not want an extortion friendly Senator in office.
He was one of the major forces behind the Patriot Act, which gives one to wonder how many of these slime balls will do anything constitutionally objectionable to cover for their seedy private lives that are not so private to the lobbyists, intelligence agencies, and foreign agents.
I would be happier knowing that my representatives’ paraphilias are openly known and accepted. I can feel reassured that my Congress critters won’t sell out my country if their sex lives are part of some lobbyists dossier.
There have been scandals in Europe involving government officials, who have been accused of pedophilia. How civic minded can they be knowing that someone has the goods on them.
I am tired of government by blackmail. We will be crushed into tyranny through it.
Report thisBy C.P.T.L., September 1, 2007 at 7:47 pm #
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I don’t like to see people humiliated either, but I’d rather see the one who worked a thirty year career of efforts that humiliated his thousands of gay constituents and denied them their rights take exactly what he deserves, than see the scenario continue by him or another.
If the Republican manufactory of “political wedge issues” can be damaged or stopped altogether by a relentless parade of every hypocritical social conservative in Washington, then let it happen. America is in dire need of the lessons.
Report thisIf we were a bit closer to understanding that living disconnectedly from the core truths of our existence leads to debacles like Iraq, we might not have allowed it to happen in the first place.
By jophusa, September 1, 2007 at 5:46 pm #
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I have to disagree. It seems that the exposed are among the most vociferous of the anti-gay, holier than thou sect. Baring the hypocrisy of these public office holders and religious leaders who make handsome amounts of money preaching this garbage to the choir may be the best means of achieving the end you seek.
Report thisBy cyrena, September 1, 2007 at 4:10 pm #
But Kiss,
Just look at what politicians are capable of when they put their minds to something. In LESS THAN A WEEK, they have forced this guy’s resignation, because he got CAUGHT playing footsie in the men’s room.
Less than a week, and he’s history. And, the rest of us are in our 7th year as hostages to Dick Bush. Nobody has taken any steps to force THEIR resignation, so what’s up with that?
Report thisBy Joseph E. Marsh, Jr., September 1, 2007 at 2:31 pm #
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Sorry, Marie, I disagree!
Republican Christian evangelicals—“compassionate conservatives”—aren’t ashamed to wage illegal unprovoked war, and don’t fall silent at the thought of hundreds of thousands of dead. Use of nuclear weapons is an idea that comes to them quickly and easily. The mass slaughter attending what they call “the rapture” suits them just fine. A rising tide of inequality that lifts a Republican boat to a corporate Ararat, but sends all others to the bottom, seems wholly proper to this crowd. But catching a Republican on his knees in a men’s room will embarrass these people into shutting up and maybe, just maybe, into changing their tune—perhaps one that all of us can tap our feet to?
I say: keep showing them for what they are:
FRAUDS
Report thisBy dp, September 1, 2007 at 1:30 pm #
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I can’t say it bothers me to see the likes of Craig and his fellow hypocrites humiliated. In fact it kind of pleases me. As long as there are politicians who take on the causes of the repressed religious people, ie: gay marriage, abortion, etc. and tout the ridiculous “family values” mantra, they need to be held accountable to the very mores they espouse. The hypocrites should not be able to legislate the public morals and themselves live by other values.
Report thisBy KISS, September 1, 2007 at 11:21 am #
Marie, do you believe in tea leaf stirrings, also? Why does anyone believe anything a politicians says, pledges, and/or promises? The only time a politician doesn’t lie is when taking his bribes. Never ever trust one running for office. If incumbent, look at his/her record [ not an easy thing to do, granted].
Report thisThis is, indeed, a reason for term limits. When voters will take the time to research the candidates and corporate money does not equate to free speech, than term limits would not be necessary.
By Inherit The Wind, September 1, 2007 at 11:19 am #
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A great President and his presidency were damaged and constricted from protecting America because he foolishly accepted a blow job from someone other than his wife and lied about it.
And the very people who piled-on Bill Clinton were all cheating on their wives as well. Yet they whine when THEY are caught doing it. Some even sponsered or spoke out attacking gays while they were, in fact, exploring or exploiting the Gay lifestyle for their own pleasure.
Their attacks on Bill Clinton was SUCH a drain on resources, made it SO difficult for him to do what needed to be done, that his late-term anti-terrorism campaign was seriously hampered, which helped make 9/11 more possible.
So these bastards who NOW complain that THEIR private life is “private” exploited Bill Clinton’s indiscretions to the point that America’s security was badly damaged.
And let’s not forget that Craig is a convicted criminal for sex crimes—he plead guilty. Good riddance to bad garbage!
Report thisBy The Conservative Deflator, September 1, 2007 at 10:31 am #
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Dead on right. Craig is a hypocrite and what he did would be wrong if he tried to get a woman to have sex in a public restroom. It isn’t that he is obviously a closeted gay that is disgusting. It’s that he tries to have furtive sex in public and that he is a hypocrite of the worst kind.
Report thisBy Margaret Currey, September 1, 2007 at 5:28 am #
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The Republicians should not say one thing and do another no one is against a person in private live doing what he does but why does he do it in so public a way, of course the fact that you are in public life means you have do your stuff in a bathroom, he might have got away with it if he had not run into an undercover cop, I wonder if all this is necessary but then again I have never encountered foot tapping in the ladies room. Not that some things don’t go on, but women are different, maybe because we have children with us.
Report thisBy cyrena, September 1, 2007 at 1:35 am #
Hey Marie…
You GO Girl!!!
Let us move on, and can we talk about something else now?
Amen!!
Report thisBy Outraged, August 31, 2007 at 11:49 pm #
Marie Cocco,
..............THANK YOU!....................
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