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Politics Is PersonalPosted on Mar 27, 2007BOSTON—What I keep remembering during the long conversation about cancer and politics, about ambition and parenting, about Elizabeth and John Edwards, is the video I watched the day before their announcement. On YouTube, the candidate was shown grooming his hair in a TV green room, while a soundtrack from “West Side Story” played the tune “I Feel Pretty.” It was no less an attack ad for its snide humor. The message was that Edwards was not one of “us.” He was a member of some android species of politician. Then John and Elizabeth came before the public with two statements: Her cancer is back. The campaign will go on. They began talking publicly about how two people choose to live in the face of illness and the universal death sentence that is suddenly more imminent. This is what Elizabeth says: “Either you push forward with the things that you were doing yesterday or you start dying.” “I am denying it [cancer] control over how I spend the rest of my life.” “The best thing you can give your children is wings.” It doesn’t get more real than this. Nor does it get more raw. Nor more human. Advertisement How many families live in that tender time frame between “we got it all” and “it’s back”? How many families are up at night, figuring odds that vary as much as the prognosis for metastatic breast cancer: a 26 percent chance or an 81 percent chance to live five years? How many juggle the way to think and live in an uncertain but certainly limited time frame? Within days, with some awful symmetry, the White House announced that Tony Snow’s cancer also was “back.” In my own circle of family and friends, there is one beating the odds on mesothelioma and yet fully aware that the disease eventually will win. There is another living with multiple myeloma ... until she won’t. It is no surprise that every one of us has an opinion on the Edwardses’ choices. Not just Rush Limbaugh, who accused the Edwardses of turning their eyes to the campaign instead of God. Not just “Toddo11,” who blogged, “How is he supposed to take care of his country when he doesn’t even take care of his family?” Not just the 12,000 who e-mailed Elizabeth encouraging words in the first days after their announcement. We each have an opinion on whether continuing a campaign shows courage or denial. On whether quitting would show acceptance or defeat. We have an opinion on whether children need wings or a cocoon. Our views about facing cancer are as varied—and conflicted—as the eulogies of its victims: She fought every inch of the way. She accepted it with grace. The truth is that the Edwardses made their decision the way we all do. We make choices based on who we are and what we believe and what is important to us. It is not simply a mathematical equation, it is a narrative. It’s not just a matter of medical calculation, it contains the arc of memoir. Elizabeth’s decision is at one with her character, steeled through the death of her son, the birth of two more children, the refusal to be a victim, and the fierce determination to write her legacy. Her husband’s decision says less about unbridled ambition than about a sense of mission. This too may be the family narrative being created for their children, whatever happens. Candidates come with medical histories. Giuliani with prostate cancer, McCain with skin cancer and 70 years. Clinton’s husband has heart disease, Romney’s wife has multiple sclerosis. As for the others, be mindful of the uncertainty of life. I don’t how the Edwards story will play out politically. But if we worry about how loss might affect a president, have we forgotten about the death of Abraham Lincoln’s son Will? The Edwards announcement followed the time frame of politics. They got out ahead of the story and got ahead of the medicine. Soon she, and we, will know more. But we already know something about facing illness and death the way you face life. “We’re all going to die,” said Elizabeth. “And I pretty much know what I’m going to die of. ... But I do want to live as full and normal a life as I can from this point on.” And so, life is her legacy. Previous item: American Kangaroo Court Claims Its First Victim Next item: Pentagon Cowers Behind Wordplay Elsewhere: . CommentsAre you a Truthdig member yet? Login now, or register with Truthdig. Add Your Comment
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By truthTopower, April 2, 2007 at 10:37 pm #
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Ms. Edwards showed courage and optimism despite fraulein Couric’s death sentence meted out on Sixty Minutes-the Katie sellout edition. Elizabeth pointed out our common mortality, a statement that went right over Couric’s head and most of the viewers’ as well. We laud the sage wisdom of Elizabeth Edwards and wish her many beautiful sunrises.
Report thisBy Bob Zimmerman, April 1, 2007 at 10:22 pm #
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John and Elizabeth Edwards are one of the very few candidate couples running who feel like “real” people. They haven’t let their money and fame get in the way of their humanity. The criticism of John Edwards for continuing his race is astounding. His wife is his biggest fan and wants him to continue the fight. It gives her that much more reason to want to live. Edwards and a very few others would be such a refreshing change from the current cast of characters running our government. We should all thank them for continuing the fight to make our country a better place.
Report thisBy Cassandra Dean, March 30, 2007 at 8:05 pm #
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That U Tube thing was a looped tape, I thought.
No?
If Edwards did NOT endlessly repeat the same expressions and gestures, it is only fair to mention that.
18 minutes of tape missing, 18 minutes of tape added—plus ca change ...
Report thisBy Susan Williams, March 28, 2007 at 6:05 pm #
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I admire the Edwards’ grace in dealing with their difficult news in the political limelight. I hope their and Tony Snow’s situations will increase awareness of the many U. S. families who are facing the same awful decisions without health insurance or a choice to work or retire in the face of treatment. Alas, even Mrs. Edwards and Mr. Snow, with all their resources, might have benefitted if monies wasted on wars had been directed toward a national policy of aggressive cancer prevention and envirnomental health. I wish the Edwards and Snows the best and hope our country gets its priorities turned around.
Report thisBy Darby, March 28, 2007 at 5:59 pm #
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Has anyone else noticed the resounding silence from Ann Coulter? I imagine someone has her tied up in a corner, with a gag over her mouth.
Report thisBy Carol Kirschenbaum, March 28, 2007 at 4:37 pm #
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Is it too soon to comment that there are many, many women in the U.S. with cancer who do not have health insurance and have no access to medical technology? Or to doctors?
John and Elizabeth Edwards know this. My friends and I are counting on their continued and outspoken passion for universal health coverage.
Blessings to Elizabeth.
Report thisBy Mad As Hell, March 28, 2007 at 1:40 pm #
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I always thought Edwards was given a raw deal just for being a good-looking man—it’s a curse we have to endure!
Now maybe he’ll be taken seriously.
I’m not particularly partial to him among the Dems, but I’d be just as happy with him as most of the others.
I suspect their motivation is that she really wants to see him as President and doesn’t expect to live long enough if he waits for 2012 or 2016.
Report thisBy newfrontpagesky, March 28, 2007 at 12:47 pm #
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I guess I must be the only person on the planet who isn’t clairvoyant because I don’t believe anyone of average abilities could possibly discern the qualities of character and motivations being so categorically attributed to the Edwardses by Ms. Goodman and so many others.
“Her husbands decision says less about unbridled ambition than about a sense of mission.”
How can anyone possibly know this?
“The truth is that the Edwardses made their decision the way we all do. We make choices based on who we are and what we believe and what is important to us. It is not simply a mathematical equation, it is a narrative. Its not just a matter of medical calculation, it contains the arc of memoir.”
What?
By all accounts, the Edwardses got the news on Wednesday, had a new conference on Thursday and had an interview broadcast Sunday on “60 Minutes”.
They may, in fact, be remarkable people but there have been strong, intelligent individuals among those I have known who have received similar diagnoses and not one of them were making major decisions that quickly.
Regardless, how can anyone have any kind of an opinion on the Edwardses’ decisions, positive or negative, in regard to an emotionally charged issue as represented in the media’s rush to get something in next news cycle?
I just hope the Edwardses do, in the end, make decisions that stand them in good stead whatever their future holds.
Report thisBy Chris Tandy, March 28, 2007 at 11:47 am #
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The Edwards are showing a beautiful grace under fire. I would only hope that I have half the strength and grace of these two people show. Thanks for the story.
Report thisBy sharon ash, March 28, 2007 at 10:39 am #
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Our family is currently going through the same medical situation with a beloved young mother whose breast cancer has moved into her bones and liver. She also has two small children. No one can possibly know exactly what this is like unless they are living the situation. No one should make judgments about the decision of the Edwards family as to how they choose to deal with this very personal family crisis. Simply pray for both Elizabeth and her family to have the strength, courage and hope to continue on the path they have chosen. Send them love.
Report thisBy JEP (John Patterson), March 28, 2007 at 8:40 am #
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Ellen;
Your gracious words speak for so many of us who have been moved by the Edwards’ tragedy and courage in the face of it.
When highly respected, new-age “pamphleteers” like yourself provide such personal and heartfelt insight and opinions, it gives the rest of us comfort.
I want to take this opportunity to thank you for everything you have done, you are one of the icons of this historic information age.
Report thisBy kenoshaMarge, March 28, 2007 at 6:17 am #
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How many people will die before Elizabeth’s cancer takes her life? No one knows for sure when their time will come. How you live life is who you are. Elizabeth and John Edwards made the choice that is best for them. The rest of us don’t get to choose for them. Only for ourselves. I hope that if I was in Elizabeth’s shoes I would have the same courage and grace.
Report thisBy 127001, March 28, 2007 at 2:07 am #
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Well spoken, and thank you for saying it.
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