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Ellen Goodman: From Stay-at-Home to Speaker

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Posted on Jan 3, 2007

By Ellen Goodman

BOSTON—And so Nancy Pelosi ascends to the speakership with a series of “firsts’’ raining down on her like confetti. She’s the first woman, the first Italian-American, the first Californian, probably the first chocoholic to take her place two heartbeats away from the Oval Office.

But maybe there’s another moniker worth adding to her résumé as head of the unruly House-hold of Representatives. She’s the only speaker whose first career was as a stay-at-home mom.

There’s nothing new about politics itself as a second career. Former Senate Majority Leader Bill Frist was a doctor before he ran for the Senate. Former House Speaker Dennis Hastert was a teacher and coach. And who can forget Ronald Reagan’s first career before he ran for political office at age 55?

But Pelosi married young, bore five children in six years, raised them, and didn’t run for office until her youngest was ready for college. She was 47 when she got onto the fast track. She won the Speaker’s Cup at 66.

Pelosi was not plucked from the kitchen to Congress. The stay-at-home-mom label may be politically correct these days but technically incorrect. Pelosi, offspring of a political family, was always involved in a campaign, she says,  “no matter how little my babies were, if I was wheeling them in a carriage or carrying them in my stomach.”

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Nevertheless, she was the real mom McCoy, the cupcake-baking, jeep-driving, school-trip mother who made the pink and silver angel costume that her youngest daughter still has. When she first ran for Congress against 13 other candidates, she had to face billboards aimed snidely at that résumé, asking whether she was “a legislator or a dilettante.”

Now, a grandmother of six and leader of 233 Democrats, Pelosi brags about her first career rather than burying it in her résumé. So she may end up as one of the success stories that changes the way people think about “opting out” and “opting in.”

We are in another long and heated debate about mothers who leave the workforce. The Bureau of Labor Statistics shows an uptick of about 8 percent from 1997 to 2004 in the number of married women at home with infants.  The biggest increase was among mothers with college degrees.

Most young mothers who leave the workforce plan to relaunch their careers sooner or later. Indeed for many the “option” in opting-out may feel like a lack of options—poor childcare or inflexible work hours.

But these mothers may find that even the shortest trip off the ramp carries a huge economic toll that can last over a lifetime. The make-it-or-break-it years coincide famously with the have-children-or-forget-it years. When they try to get back in, says Ann Crittenden, who wrote “The Price of Motherhood,” many women still feel like they’re wearing a scarlet letter: “Only the letter is not an A, it’s an M.”

That may be changing, one profile at a time. In 1998, Brenda Barnes became the poster mother for off-ramping when she left her job as CEO of PepsiCo to be with her family. Two years ago she became the CEO of Sara Lee. Karen Hughes famously left the White House to spend time with her son in 2002. She came back in 2005 to do public relations for America.

Of course, Barnes spent her “opt-out” years serving on seven corporate boards and teaching graduate school. Hughes spent them on the phone with the president. Nevertheless, these are famous women getting back on the fast track.

Demographics also seem to be leading to the on-ramp. Some well-known companies are now deliberately and directly recruiting from this older hiring pool.

It’s still the rare applicant who puts down stay-at-home mother—or father—on a job application under “work experience.” But economists as well as mothers at the playground now parse child-raising skills as qualities that are needed at the office. Need someone for multitasking? Instant problem solving? Motivating and organizing people with, um, different personalities? Mom’s the one.

I’m not saying that Nancy Pelosi is Everywoman’s role model unless Everywoman can live on four hours of sleep and a diet of chocolate. But she’s a reminder to women that life is longer than you expect and 47 is younger than you think. She’s a reminder to companies and the country that we have a lot to gain from welcoming parents into the second act.

Pelosi forever talks about her “mother-of-five voice.” Her children remember the organized mom who set the breakfast table after the dinner dishes were cleared. They also remember the mother-of-five words she used—words that may prove crucial to this brand-new head of House-hold: “I’m not taking any complaints! Let’s have some cooperation!”
   
Ellen Goodman’s e-mail address is ellengoodman(at symbol)globe.com.


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By it is just beginning......, January 6, 2007 at 10:15 pm #
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A true “working mom & grandmother” that will
P R O D U C E   R E S U L T S for the people. I expect her to “Lead the Way” in showing. And the best part, it is just beginning.  You may NOT realize all her “crafty plan” Endings just yet but YOU will.
Most Sincerely,
Concerned Mother

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By anna, January 5, 2007 at 10:28 pm #
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The tone of this article is relatively cloying, not to mention delusional. I won’t recapitulate the class issues, because the others have. But here’s a seemingly small peeve with a bigger point. Why does this writer have to suggest Pelosi may be a chocoholic? Do you know she’s a chocoholic? What is the point of suggesting it? To have a catchier lead? (It’s not.)

It’s pretty demoralizing to see women writers implant a small and stupidly steroetypical idea—women like chocolate—for no real use. Language, suggestion has real power. Why don’t you choose your words better—and try making them less schlocky too.

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By mite, January 5, 2007 at 7:14 pm #
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In Response to Jon Eden Comment #45694:

Prove that 1% of the world population owns the majority of the worlds wealth. Is that what you want me to prove? That is easy read any Sociology 101 text book. Take the time away from TV, and the other Media-Press Corporations. You can even find facts on the Internet.

Read: ‘Creature From Jekyll Island’ by G.Edward Griffin and verify references through the book.
http://www.web.archive.org http://www.freedomtofascism.com
watch the video free on Video.Google.com

Read:‘The Federal Reserve: History of Lies, Thievery, and Deceit- http://www.scionofzion.com

Search: “The Pearl Harbor Deception”
http://www.apfn.org

Search: ‘War is A Racket’

http://www.ihr.org/jhr/v09/v09p305_Marchetti.html

Go to http://www.wikipedia.org search: Council on Foreign Relations (CFR) and Trilateral Commission

Read:George Bush: The Unauthorized Biography- by
Webster G. Tarley & Anton Chaitkin

http://www.opednews.com http://www.devvy.com http://www.NewsWithViews.com

And ‘The Bankruptcy of The United States’- United States Congressional Record, March 17, 1993, Vol.33, pageH-1303

I hope these references will start your request of proof on the Upper-Class and FDR. Of coarse there is many other sources if you want the truth.

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By Dr. Knowitall, PhD, PhD, January 5, 2007 at 2:06 pm #
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As a skeptic, I’m peerless.  Men have a dismal record in governing the world and it’s quite possible that womens’ attempts at governing have been too subject to male dominance to be completely effective.  That being said, I was totally touched by Pelosi’s gathering of chidren on the podium after her swearing in.  War and power mongering, testerone-driven males all over the world and those fathers who seem to have little trouble buying war and, then, sending their sons and daughters off to die in them should take note.  If we’re going to bear children, then, by god, we’d better make them and their future our top priority.  When we all become mothers and motherly, the world will become a better place.  Congratulations to Pelosi and all the women in congress!  You give me some ray of hope.

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By jon eden, January 5, 2007 at 5:59 am #
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In response to the following comment (#45483) by mite:

“...But coming from the upper-class as she did, says who she is working for…”

If you want us to believe that, offer us some evidence. As a stand alone statement, it is absolute non sense—witness the career of FDR.

I am proud of Nancy Pelosi and proud of the House of Rep for making the ultimate statement about where it stands on gender discrimination—firmly against it.

Jon
JonEden[at}yahoo[.com]

Connecting the dots: From human behaviors to Ecosystem collapse at http://StudentsForTheEarth.org

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By Eleanore Kjellberg, January 5, 2007 at 1:09 am #
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“That may be changing, one profile at a time. In 1998, Brenda Barnes became the poster mother for off-ramping when she left her job as CEO of PepsiCo to be with her family. Two years ago she became the CEO of Sara Lee. Karen Hughes famously left the White House to spend time with her son in 2002. She came back in 2005 to do public relations for America.”
Fairy tales may come true, but they won’t be happening for you!

A Cornell study found that female job applicants with children would be less likely to get hired, and if they do, would be paid a lower salary than other candidates, male and female. By contrast, male applicants with children would be offered a higher salary than non-fathers and other mothers.

And a recent Carnegie Mellon study found that female job applicants who tried to negotiate a higher salary were less likely to be hired by male managers, while male applicants were not.

A few years back, the Massachusetts Institute of Technology found that its women scientists were routinely given less pay, space, funding and rewards than their male colleagues.

GAO reports that working women today earn an average of 80 cents for every dollar earned by their male counterparts. This pay gap has persisted for the past two decades, remaining relatively consistent from 1983-2000.

“Fifty years ago it was common for women to make less than men for the same job. Among the rationales: women required “extra services” (tampon dispensers in the johns?)”  http://www.straightdope.com/columns/020823.html

But fifty years later, much hasn’t changed; who knows there are some offices that still might consider tampon dispensers a luxury.

Affluent women like Barnes, Hughes and Pelosi are atypical, most women are resigned to non-challenging, mundane, dead-end, and low paying jobs.  So congrats to the movers and the shakers, but they are NOT representative of women in the USA.

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By Chuck, January 5, 2007 at 12:31 am #
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Ah…. the quintessential Goodman column.

Men… different than…

women…

wash… rinse… repeat…

for 45 years…

Nice gig! It’s enough to make you want to light yourself on fire…

ooops

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By AnnaCatherine, January 4, 2007 at 11:29 pm #
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What a great day for Americans.Congratulations to Nancy Pelosi and the rest of the Dems. Maybe now we can get to the matter of the Iraq War. Speaker Pelosi is serious about taking action.And with Reid and Murtha beside her we could see progress. Bush can’t be allowed to go on thinking up new cute benign ways to refer to death and destruction.We must bring our people home.I believe that Nancy Pelosi has a real plan and is not afraid of Bush and whatever is left of his administration. They are self destructing.Hoping or the best. ANNA

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By she had money and connections, January 4, 2007 at 11:04 pm #
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It’s just a tad harder for most of us.
And she’s only one, out of about 13% representing about 51% of the population. Holding up token success stories is like a panacea instead of a cure. But hey, as long as women are happy, who needs real equality? Q: Where is Martha Luther King? A: She’s too busy raising her kids and teaching her daughters to sublimate their needs to others, and teaching her sons to take her and his sisters for granted. Not by her words, she says all the right things, progressive things, but by her actions.

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By yours truly, January 4, 2007 at 11:04 pm #
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Whatever Nancy Pelosi’s background, we back her first one hundred hour agenda, followed by our making sure that the next item on the House agenda is TROOPS OUT NOW, followed by the impeachment of George Bush and guess what?  We’ll have changed the world, that’s what, and nice going in advance.

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By walking man, January 4, 2007 at 9:09 pm #
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I certainly admire Ms. Pelosi’s stick-to-it-iveness, but I also deplore her claiming to want to get out of Iraq when she refuses to vote to cut the funding to the war in Iraq.

And to declare that impeachment is “off the table” is just not acceptable. Impeachment is necessary. Politicians need to be shown that they simply just cannot lie us into war and debt with impunity.

Of course we have to impeach Bush and Cheney both.

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By DennisD, January 4, 2007 at 8:10 pm #
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Substitute rich woman for rich man rising to a position of power in anything in our country and I guess it’s big news. Strange how the fact that she is very wealthy has been left out of the story. That might just diminish the accomplishment a little. Now if some regular slob attained such heights, forget it - what the hell am I thinking.
Her term as speaker will be remembered for what she does and doesn’t do with the Dem’s new found “power”. With another election in two years there are plenty of Rep’s willing to cross party lines in the name of job security. She has a chance to apply real pressure to Bu$h Inc. from the start and not let up until we’re out of Iraq. The time for patience is over.
When the latest round of partying is over and the seating at the public trough determined, I hope someone in this sitcom government of ours has a plan to get something of importance done other than reassigning the parking spaces at the Capitol.
Please tell me this won’t be another example of be careful what you wish for.

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By HeadlessHessian, January 4, 2007 at 7:34 pm #
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I am guy!  And I think its high time we had women lead this country, cause frnakly speaking most guys (some have not) have just #$%^ it all up!  I applaud Pelosi!  I also applaud an electorate that had enough sense to vote out the Nazis that have run this nation into the ground.  I wished that this was 2004 and that we could just dump this Texan idiot (no offense to Texans).
I am ready for a woman president.  Period!
I am ready for good ideas, not the same ol’crap.


Headless

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By bsbuster007@hotmail.com, January 4, 2007 at 6:36 pm #
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I wonder why the major media is not at all excited about all this ?
Can you imagine if it had been one of the neo-cons or the ‘dubya’ daughters? there would have been a week long celebration!!

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By Pat, January 4, 2007 at 2:26 pm #
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Nancy Pelosi deserves all the accolades being thrown at her now.  She has worked hard and she has proven that it is indeed possible to have the joys of raising a family and also having a career. This is the very goal that the feminist movement had for itself at its inception.  Being a grandmother myself, I have more confidence in the future for my granddaughter now that there is a woman in the most senior leadership position of the House of Representatives.

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By Rhea, January 4, 2007 at 1:23 pm #
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I have waited for this moment for decades. When a progressive politician refers to herself as a ‘mother of five’ I think we’ve finally gotten somewhere.

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By Kellina, January 4, 2007 at 12:29 pm #
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She can set a table, sure, but WHY oh why has she taken impeachment OFF the table?

(I guess anyone can burst back on the scene and succeed if they have enough AIPAC money.)

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By mite, January 4, 2007 at 11:54 am #
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I congratulate Pelosi on her raising her children, and the love she gave freely to family.

But coming from the upper-class as she did, says who she is working for. Do you really want us to believe the censorship of the Press-Media feed the rest of America.

Many of us out here know the ‘Key turners’ of government and it sure is not ‘Pelosi’.

If one reads the ‘Communist Manifesto’ and read history of Congress and the Courts ruling we can see who is represented in this Government- it is not the ‘People’. So stop B*** S**ting us with this women’s lib.

Rockefeller knew what he was doing starting WWII and putting the women into the factory’s, more tax money to pay the interest on debt and enslavement of our mothers, sisters, also.

If you look at how our country has been destroyed since forced into the inflation acts of a double household income, we see why our generations have lost control of our children.

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