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Ellen Goodman: The Baby Bump FixationPosted on Jul 26, 2006
BOSTON—I suppose it is reassuring that when all hell breaks loose, the tabloids still keep their eyes on the heavens, or at least the stars. Even in the Middle East, a gossip sheet in the United Arab Emirates is dutifully chronicling the search for baby Suri. The daughter of Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes is not exactly missing. No milk cartons, please. It’s just that the 3-month-old has not yet had her picture on the public show-and-tell circuit, a required rite of passage for celebrities. The frenzied speculation about the TomKitten, as she is called in tabloidese, gives you an idea of the change in star tracking. These days the paparazzi are focused on the celebrity baby—from bump to birth and beyond. The fascination with these celebrity births has surpassed the fixation on celebrity love, marriage, infidelity, divorce and weight gain—unless they conveniently dovetail. For most of Hollywood life, the bump was not a fashion statement, nor was it a smart career move. In 1953, when Lucille Ball had a baby in real life and sitcom life, you still couldn’t say “pregnant’’ on TV. In 1991, Demi Moore broke a barrier when she posed nude and pregnant on the cover of Vanity Fair. But when Britney Spears appears that way on the cover of Bazaar, she merely looks, um, overexposed. Cameras now stalk celebrity wombs. The Onion turns its satirical eye to announce celebrity satellites that can spot “baby bumps’’ from 13,000 miles above the Earth. And when Reese Witherspoon sues Star magazine for false pregnancy reports, the mother of two is described as “empty-wombed.’’ Advertisement Following the new script, celebrity parents are also displaying a post-partum glow and a few words of parental bliss. Even the zany Jack Black has publicly promised to enter and win the best-daddy-on-the-planet competition. So how did this fixation on celebrity babies, this upbeat bump beat, happen just as we are being told that parenthood is onerous and grueling and that parents are overworked and overwhelmed? Readers of Star, In Touch, OK! and US Weekly probably did not pick up the latest lament about parenting at their supermarket checkout. It was offered by Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, co-director of the National Marriage Project and still best known for siding with Dan Quayle in his spat over single motherhood with Murphy Brown. Now, she’s painted a disheartening picture of parenthood as “a conspicuous source of anxiety and distress.’’ She then points to a demographic and cultural culprit. (full report / summary) Parenting, writes Whitehead, takes up a shorter amount of the expanding life cycle these days, somewhere between a child-free youth and a child-free empty nest. So the culture that once thought of adulthood and parenthood as synonymous now portrays child-raising as an unsatisfying timeout from the fun. “If the popular culture were the only source of knowledge about American parenthood,’’ she says, “one would quickly conclude that being a parent is one of the least esteemed and most undesirable roles in the society.’’ She describes a society that is “indifferent at best, and hostile, at worst, to those who are caring for the next generation.’‘ But if the popular culture casts parenthood as grim, who’s feeding the pro-natalist message to its audience? “What is happening to the joys of parenthood?’’ asks Whitehead in dismay. But in the tabloids, stars respond in a torrent of parental gush: “He inspires me!’’ “We stare at him.’’ “We’re so in love.’‘ Let’s be clear. The difference between being a celebrity parent and a civilian parent is probably the difference between working at Wal-Mart and Warner Bros. The stars get nannies and trainers, the rest of us get diapers and stretch marks. Hollywood’s baby flicks may ultimately be as useful a guide to real life as its chick flicks. But I’m guessing that the media baby boom also fills a real desire for some counter-messages. Whitehead may rue the pop culture that makes “child-rearing values—sacrifice, stability, dependability, maturity—seem stale and musty.’’ But Brad Pitt, scion of the pop culture, tells the world: “I got kids now. And it really changes your perspective on the world. ... I’m so tired of thinking about myself.’’ Parenting as drudgery? Or could it be that babies are the new bling? Previous item: Marie Cocco: The Meltdown We're Not Supposed to Talk About Next item: Playing the Atheism Card Against Pat Tillman's Family Elsewhere: . CommentsAre you a Truthdig member yet? Login now, or register with Truthdig. Add Your Comment
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By suenos, August 2, 2006 at 2:08 pm #
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“Pregnant ladies are gorgeous” -John Dwyer
Ditto. I could intellectually analyze why we are so obsessed with celebrities but my gut response is: pregnancy is beautiful, it is not something to be ashamed of. I find it to be more interesting than someone’s jewelery or what they wore to the oscars. I love seeing all of these adult women not pretending to be teenagers. Instead say this is my body. This is my life. We are fascinated by the mystique of life and this goes beyond the pettiness and voyerish nature of tabloids.
Report thisBy TigerLily, July 31, 2006 at 3:31 am #
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Should we be askng why we’re a “nation of voyeurs” as G.Anderson says? Or why “junk culture information is so much more interesting to most people than the stuff pertaining to the real world? Is it because the general public feels no control over their own lives, perhaps, and prefers a fantasy life of imaginary involvement in the lives of celebrities? Hey, folks—the media just gives what readers are asking for…
Report thisBy Evan, July 30, 2006 at 11:42 pm #
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Just imagine what her kid will feel like in 15 years, when (s)he sees an old copy of this magazine…
Report thisBy rachelle, July 28, 2006 at 10:03 pm #
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The way the media portrays the ladies’ pregnancies, one would think they invented it. Zzzzzzzzz
Report thisBy Matty, July 28, 2006 at 8:43 pm #
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Why does anyone even care about these people or what they do? I couldn’t care less about Tom Cruise or his dwarven child.
Report thisIf anything this recent baby boom in hollywood is only meant to cause one in the sheep that follow their lives. Why would such a thing be desired? Because in the next 10 years you are going to see a large decline in the population from illness and military conflicts. Bird Flu and WWIII, we need babies.
By Liz, July 28, 2006 at 2:38 pm #
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Pop culture is ust sick right now, that’s all. So what if britney has a baby, millions do. What makes her baby and shiloh pitt better then any other baby. I think it’s disgusting how people called her messaiah and all this crap.
Report thisBy John Dwyer, July 28, 2006 at 7:51 am #
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Pregnant ladies are gorgeous.
Report thisBy fuggy, July 28, 2006 at 5:38 am #
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Celebrities go on talk shows and tell embarassing stories about themselves, they make fun of themselves or they complain about things and people laugh.
In real life, if you complain about anything you are labelled “a complainer” and excluded from the group. If you tell embarassing stories about yourself or make fun of yourself people think less of you.
So real people learn to rarely say what they think. Celebrities are allowed to talk more freely, so we may actually know them better than the other soccer moms we meet with weekly while our sons are practicing.
And there you have the reason for our love of celebritites. My God, Brad Pitt TOLD the reporter with Vanity Fair, while still with Ms. Aniston: “I want to have babies, we have practiced long enough”. Unlike him, I cannot hint at any problems I may have with my mate to any members of my extended family.
They will think less of me and ignore the positive things in my life.
fuggy
Report thisBy Mad As Hell, July 27, 2006 at 10:29 pm #
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I have a question:
Who gives a crap?
They are just women and men having babies, just like the rest of the species.
So Brittany whatever wants to try to enhance preserver her career for doing something or other (I don’t know what—or care) by appearing naked and pregnant on a magazine I wouldn’t read of the only other reading material was the entrails of a dead and rotting porcupine!
Then someone thinks that it was “special” when Demi-Brain did it—forgetting that it was just as tasteless and stupid then.
Men get women pregnant and then they have babies. If both want this, WONDERFUL If they don’t the anti-abortion forces (who deceptively call themselves “Pro-Life” though very few are) try to make damn sure that 3 people, father, mother and child, are miserable for eternity.
So WHAT if they are famous this week? I couldn’t pick Brittany whatever out of a crowd of two!
Report thisBy C Quil, July 27, 2006 at 3:16 pm #
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Motherhood is happening all the time. The U.S. just passed the 300 million mark recently, didn’t it? But unless you are determined to have your own football team, most women spend very little of their life in the bump stage, and much more in the diaper-changing, feeding, staying up all night with a sick one, or endlessly worrying about a teenager stages. It’s one of life’s choices, and just like all of them, is neither all bad nor all good.
Apart from the airbrushing, Britney is a couple of months away from the “Holy Cats! is it possible to get that big and not explode” stage. The tiny bump is a very short stage indeed.
But why make such a big deal about something that most people do anyway, and is anything but glamorous for most people? If people believed half of what their elders tell them about having children, the human race would come to an end. In this case, willful disbelief is the only thing that keeps it going.
I believe Angelina Jolie, the most over-hyped mother on the planet, said something to the effect that she found childbirth a terrifying experience. I bet she won’t be repeating that in a hurry, unless she finds someone else’s husband irrestible in the near future and just can’t control herself. You notice that she’s left her options open (no pun intended) for a quick getaway.
As for Brad Pitt, I find his treacly public statements sick-making.
Report thisBy Collin, July 27, 2006 at 2:24 pm #
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Could people possibly be interested because motherhood is both good and natural?
Or is it because of massive amounts of airbrushing?
Collin
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Report thisBy harrysf, July 27, 2006 at 12:06 pm #
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I believe the baby bump coverage is further evidence of the encroachment of American junk culture upon society. The media simply need to come up with more trivial topics to write about.
Ask a bunch of random people on the street some questions about celebrities—name of their favorite actor, performer, athlete, etc.—and you’ll get an earful of useless info.
But ask people about (non-celebrity) history, geography, or philosophy, and the conversation is likely to end quickly.
And we wonder why so many kids are functionally illiterate upon leaving high school?
Just say NO to pabulum!
Report thisBy G. Anderson, July 27, 2006 at 2:39 am #
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I was a little shocked to see Brittany as a Brunette…
but as for the rest of it who really cares…?
My children nursed for a long time, and I hope that they will not be obsessed with nudity and breasts, and someone else’s life like those in the Media seem to be…
Despite all of Brittany’s stardom, I feel somewhat sorry for her, she seems so lost, and clueless about her own life, just like the rest of us.
Maybe that comes from being a nation of voyeurs, watching others live our lives for us, instead of living for ourselves…
but of course there’s no money for the media in that….
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