As defeats go that really doesn’t sound very bitter.
At all.

ITW, you’re reading too much into my comments. I am a marriageophobic schmuck, neither a heterophobic nor a homophobic one. The concept of either the government’s or a church’s blessing being essential for a union between humans is ridiculous, especially in view of the current state of both the government and religions. Both would be utterly superfluous if they did not wield such power over our lives, both are hypocritically corrupt, and their corruption will continue for so long as we permit it. I’m all for the freedom of f*****g with anyone we want to who wants us, but believe we should concentrate on f*****g, by any means necessary, our current government and religions until the first is corrected, and the second, eliminated.

TDoff:
Stop trying so hard to sound like a homophobic schmuck.  You’re doing too good a job.

The GLBT, IMHO, is fully entitled to the same legal partnership as “straights”.  But TACTICALLY (and I emphasize that word) they’ve gone about it all wrong, learning NOTHING from the legal challenges led by Thurgood Marshall against Southern Segregation. 

Instead, they went for the whole enchilada, never realizing it would SLOW the process down and give the right wing intolerant religious fanatics motivation.

Building Civil Unions in state after state, challenging the ACTUAL differences between “Marriage” and “Civil Union” (without going for the word “Marriage”) would have gotten them there far faster and with a far stronger legal foundation.

Sun-Tzu wrote that to achieve victory, first make yourself undefeatable.  The legal challenges have violated this strategic principle.

Now ever attempt at Civil Unions and “worse” Marriage motivates and mobilizes those who think it’s their business, indeed their RIGHT, to determine what genitalia the members of such a Union must possess.

Yet every state that accepts Civil Unions brings us closer to the day when happily consenting adults will be no different in their Unions whether they are GLBT, or Hetero.

The main advantage gay marriages have over heterosexual marriages, is that both partners agree on the preferred position of the toilet seat.

Rhode Island gays should settle down and concentrate on their main problem. Not that they cannot legally be married, but that the legislature has decreed that their unions must be civil.

Can you imagine trying to spend a lifetime with someone of the same sex, seeing each other day after day, going through all the hassles of a heterosexual marriage, including the sexual controversies, disagreements, disappointments, and infidelities…and keeping the relationship ‘civil’?!