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A Bedroom Benediction for Married Catholics

Posted on Sep 2, 2009
Prayer Book for Spouses

Ever wonder what the Roman Catholic Church might have to say about the proper way to prepare to engage in the friskier side of holy matrimony? Well, here it is anyway: A Catholic organization in Britain has come up with a bedroom benediction for officially recognized (read: heterosexual) married couples to consult prior to consummation in its handy “Prayer Book for Spouses.”  —KA

Daily Mail:

A book published by a prominent Church group invites those setting out on married life to recite the specially-composed Prayer Before Making Love.

It is aimed at ‘purifying their intentions’ so that the act is not about selfishness or hedonism.

The prayer, which appears in the Prayer Book for Spouses, implores God ‘to place within us love that truly gives, tenderness that truly unites, self-offering that tells the truth and does not deceive, forgiveness that truly receives, loving physical union that welcomes’.

It adds: ‘Open our hearts to you, to each other and to the goodness of your will.

‘Cover our poverty in the richness of your mercy and forgiveness. Clothe us in true dignity and take to yourself our shared aspirations, for your glory, for ever and ever.’

The 64-page book has been published by the London-based Catholic Truth Society.

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By photoshock, September 3, 2009 at 8:30 pm Link to this comment

Re: BaileyWu, your lack of compassion and total lack of tolerance shows a complete lack of spiritual growth.
Not knowing the circumstances under which I wrote, you charge me with a spiritual ignorance? What are you anyway, are you Catholic? Do you understand the Christian viewpoint of marriage and the ‘sanctity of sexual intercourse?’
I do believe that what we have here is a failure to communicate, you do not understand the basis of Christian marriage, and the total lack of compassion shown a divorced or separated member of the ‘flock.’ Well having been sheared too many times by women, I now know the reason for the churches, and their total ignorance on the subject of marriage.
Please do not speak of that which you know nothing about, especially someone’s background and understanding of spiritual matters. For your info, I was a practicing Right Wing Nut of the Repug’s for many years. After having been abandoned by my so-called friends, I found that the people that cared
the most and helped the most when I was homeless and hungry, were not the ‘christians’ but the Buddhists and the atheists. People who had some smattering of faith, no faith in a G-d, and some who had and still have enormous faith in the ‘Mother Goddess’ who takes
care of all her children. Personally, my leaning is towards the reasoned approach, neither atheist nor theist but agnostic. I believe that there is some form of higher power but as for a personal G-d, I cannot believe that a personal G-d would put someone through the hell I am living right now and will continue to live in until I ‘shuck off this mortal coil.’

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By DDW, September 3, 2009 at 1:41 pm Link to this comment
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Do the math:

God is Love (1 John 4: 16)

Many of you are saying that you want God out of the bedroom.  It is a “mood killer.”  And you don’t want God to be part of your commitment to one another. 


If only your would see or at least consider the depth of love that could exist between two people, the passion, the joy, the intimacy… everything! If only you would not harden your hearts to a bigger picture than your subjective, 21st century, broken perspective.  There is more to hope for… that is all those “old men” in Rome are trying to get you to see… selfless, true, deep, love…

The love of man and woman “tends to rise ‘in ecstasy’ towards the Divine…”

Benedict XVI (God is Love, n. 5)

Look into it.  See what those “old” Catholics really say.  I dare you to look.  At least inform yourselves instead of repeating empty and misinformed propaganda against the Church..

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By Spike, September 3, 2009 at 12:01 pm Link to this comment
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It is all about superstition.
Try to remember: Superstitions bring bad luck.

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By glider, September 3, 2009 at 10:45 am Link to this comment

That is good advice.  I expect you to take some heat from your frankness.  Dont let it bother you grin

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By Rodger Lemonde, September 3, 2009 at 9:45 am Link to this comment
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Anyone remember the ” Every sperm is sacred” skit from
Monty Python?
Note to the religious, if you want to practice religion
fine, don’t bother me until you have got it right.

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By Epicurienne, September 3, 2009 at 8:50 am Link to this comment
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Prayer before…um, marital relations?  Talk about a mood-killer.

And photoshock, it sounds like you’ve been badly hurt at some time, but I do commend your idea of living with someone first to be sure it’s right before you get married.  I don’t see why marriage is still around, anyway.  Why do we have to ask society’s (or a church’s) permission to love someone, sleep with them, or live with them?

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By analogkid, September 3, 2009 at 8:25 am Link to this comment
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Same old stupid religious crap.  Can’t wait until the day that retarded religious information is treated like astrology, it won’t make it onto websites as news.

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By nwaocha ogechukwu, September 3, 2009 at 1:20 am Link to this comment
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What do you think of when you look at the cross and the crucifix?  Do they hold sacred and religious value for you?

After reading Ogechukwu’s book, your perception may change; the church’s use of these symbols has, for centuries, concealed facts regarding their true origins.  Ogechukwu reveals those findings in this stunning expose.

His research includes historical accounts of Christianity’s conspiracy and divulges the true meaning of the cross—a satanic symbol. 

Ogechukwu states:

“For centuries after Christ, the church and other religions that use cruciform symbols have misrepresented the physical nature of Christ’s death with a satanic symbol (cross), and a pagan idol (corpus). This secret has been concealed by the church for centuries after Christ.”

What reason did the church have for shifting the cross’ meaning from one of evil to one of goodness?

This easy to read, enlightening and academically sound book regarding the symbolism and meaning of the cross leads to a stunning conclusion.  Learn more about the real nature of Christ’s death and religion’s role in the change in symbolism.  Ogechukwu wants to reveal the truth in hopes of releasing humankind from what he calls the “painful knowledge bondage” of cruciform propaganda.

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By BaileyWu, September 2, 2009 at 10:04 pm Link to this comment
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I don’t get the objections. That prayer could be Buddhist. It’s a prayer for unity of spirit and pure love. It could have been written by the Dalia Lama. So don’t buy the prayer book. It’s not “the Catholic Church” anyway. It’s a charity in England.  I’m a secularist but if you want to slam a religion you can find much better material than this. It only shows your ignorance of spiritual matters while assuming the authoritarians are coming to get you.

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By photoshock, September 2, 2009 at 9:01 pm Link to this comment

The same old tired story by the same old tired men! Can they not get it through their thick heads that married people do not need their advice on marriage?
The Catholic Church hierarchy has been condemning every form of sin, for the last 1700 years, but their own sins they cover up and hide behind the veil of secrecy and deceit.
I for one, cannot stand another of these missives about how married life is sacred and should be held high in regard by society. If this were so, the women I have met in my life, would have worked hard to retain their marriages. Yet, they have the idea in the ‘christian fundamentalist community,’ this includes the Catholic Church, that men are expendable and do not mean anything to them and the raising of children.
I find that in this age of liberation and enlightenment, that there is still a prejudice against men and the fact that the court system, does nothing to help men father their children after divorce, but we still have to ‘pay’ child support to the mother, is an abomination and discriminatory.
Sometimes, mothers are not fit to parent, and the father should be getting custody, but that is not about to happen in today’s society.
I am appalled at the lack of sensitivity by these so-called ‘church organizations!’ They cannot have thought through the ramifications of their comments about the ‘sanctity of marriage’ and their other rather crude comments on the state of matrimony and the way people love each other. I will not bow to the ‘higher’ authorities when I next meet a woman, I will live with her before marriage and then decide if it is right to commit my life to her.

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