Psychology Today magazine says that singlehood in America is fast becoming “a sign of independence rather than a mark of shame, an opportunity to develop a variety of relationships rather than a demand to stuff all one’s emotional eggs into one basket.”
The facts are these: Singles are the fastest-growing demographic group in the U.S., and marital status is not a determinant of happiness. Psychology Today magazine examines these findings and says singlehood is rapidly becoming “a satisfying destination rather than an anxiety-ridden way station.”
For 23 years?her whole career?Bella DePaulo built a stellar reputation as the go-to expert on the subject of deception, the lying and lie detecting we do in our everyday social life. She published dozens of papers, wrote scores of chapters and found a tenured professional home at the University of Virginia. At the same time, she was building a wide web of friendships, a vibrant intellectual life, traveling extensively and generally enjoying life as a single, unattached human being. Research psychologist that she is, she also began collecting data on attitudes about singles in America.
Two years ago, she went out West on sabbatical. She liked it so much she chose to stay. Moreover, she was ready to put aside her work on deception for a while. “I decided to take a chance on writing a book about singles and not look for a full-time job,” she reports. She signed on as a visiting professor at the University of California at Santa Barbara and teaches an occasional course.